This is an excerpt I wrote while in an emotionally abusive relationship, as I reflect back, I realized that I was being manipulated into believing that I had to suit his standards in order to feel worthy. I do not condone abusive relationships wherein one human being is required to put all of their beliefs, their interests, and their individuality aside in order to conform to that of your mate’s. This is an emotional manipulative abuse tactic. If your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse shows signs of manipulative tendencies know that you are NOT going crazy. Please, get out. Refrain from the extremely romanticized idealization that we must put our significant other above ourselves. Love is a compromise, it is not a right. You should never feel forced to do anything or change anything that strips you away from what molds you as an individual. This frame of thought is glorified far too often.
“I always believed that I was incapable of letting people go in a relationship because I don’t know how to be in one. But my years alone proved that wrong. I am fully functional as an individual. I just love to love. I love love. I love to embody another. I love immersing myself in another so much so that we dissolve into each other. We become each other. We become one. And when you become one, you often lose your sense of being. It’s a sickness. To divulge in love,
and make it if it means making it everything you are.”